Marriage is the joining of two people in a bond that is to last until death. It is a life long commitment made to each other, typically in the presence of close friends and family. "For better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part" means just that.
Sure, those vows seem "dated" and unrealistic considering the current divorce rate in the United States is between 40-50% however unless there is a commitment to work through life circumstances together, the divorce rate will continue to steadily increase.
Keeping a promise has little or nothing to do with the person to whom the promise was made. A commitment is the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action. When seen from this perspective, you are more likely to keep your word/promise which is also known as integrity.
Integrity - an unreduced or unbroken completeness. This unbroken completeness confirms outside forces are not a factor. Because a commitment is made at will, what the other does/says is not part of the equation. Over time however stipulations, prenuptial agreements, and the like have been incorporated into the marriage agreement as protection for the one who was wronged and able end the marriage with "just" cause, hence the divorce rate.
Seen from this perspective, there is no accountability for the offender considering divorce terminates the agreement yet does nothing to rectify the offense and/or repair the damage because nothing good comes as a result of divorce.
A life long commitment on the other hand does not mean being a doormat and accepting abuse in any form. It is a decision to communicate from a place of Love where both parties are safe to just be their authentic self. Free of criticism and judgments. Free from comparisons, neglect, dishonesty, disrespect and hostility.
Marriage is a life long commitment. Only when LOVE (God) is the common denominator will the "deal breakers" and/or "breaking points" be seen for what they are, tests. And because LOVE (God) is the solution to all problems, divorce is not part of the equation. Peace
Sure, those vows seem "dated" and unrealistic considering the current divorce rate in the United States is between 40-50% however unless there is a commitment to work through life circumstances together, the divorce rate will continue to steadily increase.
Keeping a promise has little or nothing to do with the person to whom the promise was made. A commitment is the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action. When seen from this perspective, you are more likely to keep your word/promise which is also known as integrity.
Integrity - an unreduced or unbroken completeness. This unbroken completeness confirms outside forces are not a factor. Because a commitment is made at will, what the other does/says is not part of the equation. Over time however stipulations, prenuptial agreements, and the like have been incorporated into the marriage agreement as protection for the one who was wronged and able end the marriage with "just" cause, hence the divorce rate.
Seen from this perspective, there is no accountability for the offender considering divorce terminates the agreement yet does nothing to rectify the offense and/or repair the damage because nothing good comes as a result of divorce.
A life long commitment on the other hand does not mean being a doormat and accepting abuse in any form. It is a decision to communicate from a place of Love where both parties are safe to just be their authentic self. Free of criticism and judgments. Free from comparisons, neglect, dishonesty, disrespect and hostility.
Marriage is a life long commitment. Only when LOVE (God) is the common denominator will the "deal breakers" and/or "breaking points" be seen for what they are, tests. And because LOVE (God) is the solution to all problems, divorce is not part of the equation. Peace
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