Because decisions are made first in the mind, Real change does not happen unless and until the realization that change is necessary, happens first. Anything other than Real change may provide the desired result however its effect will not only fade over time but the chances of unraveling increases, causing further damage.
Real change comes from recognizing the difference between what is Real and what is not. This recognition is the beginning of what it takes to begin the "clean up" process. Clean up, in a sense of doing away with what doesn't serve and leave a positive impact on ALL.
Because the True essence of the human being is LOVE, any/everything apart from LOVE is false and made up by ego. False images appearing Real, fear, is the fundamental reason human beings suffer. Although fear in itself is nothing considering LOVE is everything and a stranger to no one, recognition of this fact is where Real change begins.
Choose to remember the Truth in You which is the same for ALL. Only LOVE is Real. Nothing Real can be threatened. LOVE abides in physical (human) form yet is manifested only in the absence of fear.
Rather than continuing to run from fear, choose to remember Truth, LOVE. This recognition will immediately shine the light of Truth on all of what is kept hidden in the shadows of fear. Because Truth stands on its own, all that is required is acceptance. Without acceptance, Real change is impossible - it's called denial.
It's Time to clean house, first in the mind. From there, the possibilities are endless - so long as LOVE is the guiding force. Peace