Let's talk about this "forgiveness" word - you know, the one that makes you look suspiciously thinking "what are you up to?" Well let's get into it. Forgiveness first off is needed as long as you fail to remember that nothing can hurt you unless you give it the power to do so. Secondly, forgiveness is offered not to let the "offender" off the hook but rather to free yourself from unnecessary pain, anger and resentment.
Too often we (un)consciously place the offense (and sometimes even the offender) as a clear picture in our mind as to not forget. Hence the term "forgive but don't forget." All the while this vivid picture is what you wake up with every morning and go to bed with every night - seems like if you have more than one offender, your bed can get pretty crowded! You see, the energy it takes to carry around that picture in your mind is maybe the real cause of constant tension headaches, insomnia, eating disorders, depression, cancer, heart disease, nightmares, etc. Meanwhile the offender is imprisoned in your cell of unforgiveness and only you hold the key to release yourself from the madness.
You don't remember. If you did, you would know if/when someone acts out in a hurtful manner its a cry for help. They've "attacked" because they feel threatened - think of a terrified animal - however by keeping your peace/sanity (which equals love and respect), you will not only pass the test but avoid suffering and help heal the world. Forgiveness is when you can see the other no longer as your offender but someone who acted out of fear. The choice to give up their power doesn't have to be yours too!
Hey, you're either part of the solution or you're part of the problem - you choose. Keep in mind forgiveness is yours as long as you keep it under lock and key but you can choose to trade it in for peace anytime you're ready!
Remember - it's all a test...
Too often we (un)consciously place the offense (and sometimes even the offender) as a clear picture in our mind as to not forget. Hence the term "forgive but don't forget." All the while this vivid picture is what you wake up with every morning and go to bed with every night - seems like if you have more than one offender, your bed can get pretty crowded! You see, the energy it takes to carry around that picture in your mind is maybe the real cause of constant tension headaches, insomnia, eating disorders, depression, cancer, heart disease, nightmares, etc. Meanwhile the offender is imprisoned in your cell of unforgiveness and only you hold the key to release yourself from the madness.
You don't remember. If you did, you would know if/when someone acts out in a hurtful manner its a cry for help. They've "attacked" because they feel threatened - think of a terrified animal - however by keeping your peace/sanity (which equals love and respect), you will not only pass the test but avoid suffering and help heal the world. Forgiveness is when you can see the other no longer as your offender but someone who acted out of fear. The choice to give up their power doesn't have to be yours too!
Hey, you're either part of the solution or you're part of the problem - you choose. Keep in mind forgiveness is yours as long as you keep it under lock and key but you can choose to trade it in for peace anytime you're ready!
Remember - it's all a test...
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